The CoronaVirus stay at home order has effectively removed most of the structure from our lives. That lack of structure impacts the entire family including how much tech is being consumed. This episode is a quick review of the three simplest things you can do right now to try and bring a little more control over tech usage in your home. These tips are easy to implement, are easy to police, and yield benefits larger than the sum of its parts.
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Student survey responses data
- Weinberger, Jesse “Internet Safety & Digital Parenting: Your kids want you to say ‘no’ – to them AND to yourself. I have proof” OvernightGeekUniversity.com (2018)
- Read more about Donald Winnicott, psychoanalyst with some excellent advice for parents. “The road to a better society begins in the nursery.”
- (Kaufman Citation) – Williams, Alice. “By Age 7 the Foundations for Your Child’s Adult Brain Are Pretty Much Set.” NewsComAu, News.com.au, 29 Oct. 2016
- Larsen, Kristy L., “Organized Chaos: Daily Routines as a Potential Mechanism Linking Household Chaos and Child Behavior Problems” (2019). Master’s Theses. 627.
- Fiese, Barbara H., et al. “A Review of 50 Years of Research on Naturally Occurring Family Routines and Rituals: Cause for Celebration?”Journal of Family Psychology, vol. 16, no. 4, 2002, pp. 381–390., doi:10.1037/0893-322.214.171.1241.
- Weinberger, Jesse The Boogeyman Exists: And He’s In Your Child’s Back Pocket, 2nd ed.OvernightGeek, 2019
- Telzer, Eva H., Andrew J. Fuligni, Matthew D. Lieberman, and Adriana Galvan, “The effects of poor quality sleep on brain function and risk taking in adolescence.” NeuroImage 71 (2013): 275-283.
- Meldrum, Ryan.C, J.C. Barnes, and Carter Hay. “Sleep Deprivation, Low Self-Control, and Delinquency: A Test of the Strength Model of Self-Control.” Journal of Youth and Adolescence 44.2 (2013): 465-77.
- Tarokh, Leila, Jared M. Saletin, and Mary A. Carskadon. “Sleep in adolescence: Physiology, cognition and mental health.” Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews 70 (2016): 182-88.
- 00:57 Why two episodes this week?
- 01:34 Stopping the bleeding – aka parental triage
- 03:07 Humans need structure
- 05:09 Why children in particular require structure, daily routines, and ritual
- 07:05 Why limits matter
- 07:36 What 1,040 students want parents to know about tech use
- 09:00 What all effective digital parenting strategies and tips have in common
- 10:50 Tip 1: Parent Heal Thyself
- 13:00 Tip 2: Geographic Restriction
- 14:10 Tip 3: Drop Dead Device Deadline
- 15:16 Verizon Smart Family App – as an example
- 16:19 Setting limits on gaming time
- 17:56 Poor sleep= damage to adolescents
Jesse "Big Mama" Weinberger is an Internet Safety Speaker for schools, the host of the Internet Safety Podcast: Big Mama's House Podcast, and the author of The Boogeyman Exists: And He’s In Your Child’s Back Pocket; a guide for parents and educators on how to keep children safe in a 24-7 always connected digital society. Learn more about how to keep your children safe online. She has been teaching parents, schools, and students how to navigate online and mobile risks since 2003. Jesse is available for internet safety presentations to schools, parents, students, and organizations all over the United States.