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The Barrel Has No Bottom : Yik Yak Review: Another Anonymous Social Media Site Perfect for Cyberbullying & It’s Worse Than Ask.fm
- Posted on: February 11, 2014
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I’ve realized that the barrel has no bottom. There will be no scraping the bottom, because there will always be another app or social platform to discuss which tops (or bottoms) the potential ugliness of the previous one.
In honor of Safer Internet Day, we have a new cootie to dissect. This one is called Yik Yak – perhaps because that is what it will make you want to do….
Yik Yak is worse than Ask.fm. Yes, I said it – WORSE. And if you aren’t sure what Ask.fm is read two of my previous posts:
- Entire High School Football Team Gets Suspended Because of Cyberbullying on Ask.fm
- An Open Letter to Teens Who Use Ask.fm; Read, Post, & Share
Why Yik Yak is Worse than Ask.fm
As we’ve seen before, Ask.fm’s marketed anonymity makes it easy for anyone to ask YOU on YOUR profile questions. They can be nasty and mean but they’re asking YOU.
On Ask.fm:
- A user creates a profile (most kids use their real names and location – which is dumb, obviously)
For this example we’ll call her Sally Smith from Topeka Kansas - Another user can ask the first user any question at all anonymously
Another user we’ll call Jenny Jones from Topeka Kansas - Jenny goes onto Sally’s Ask.Fm page and posts a question – questions like the following are extremely common on Ask.fm
* Why are you such a whore?
* Why don’t you kill yourself?
* Do your parents hate you as much as everyone else? - Sally does not know who is posting the question
Now let’s apply the same scenario above to Yik Yak
- A user downloads the app
Which by the way is meant for 17+ college students, and the app maker warns about inappropriate content - The app grabs the user’s location via GPS
- The user posts a comment openly to whomever is listening about whatever
**Do any of you know Sally Smith? She is such a whore
**I’m pretty sure my English teacher – Mr. Taylor- is gay - The post arrives in the feed of anyone physically near the user posting. So you will see the posts from everyone within x radius of you. Think: community wide
- A map accompanies every single post showing exactly where you physically were when you posted
Here is an actual example from my current Yik Yak screen
Note the second post which reads “Gotta feeling this is going to get out of control”.
Actual Yik Yak Feed When we click on that particular post we get this map – apparently whomever posted that comment was inside Vestavia Hills High School at the time
When you click on one of the posts in the screen above you will see that it was posted by someone at Vestavia High School If we zoom in slightly we will know exactly the spot where the user was standing inside of the building when that post was uploaded to Yik Yak
Exact location in the building Biggest Concerns with Yik Yak
Anonymity: This is the same issue with Ask.fm. Anonymity makes bullies feel brave. We can expect to hear a lot more about this app in conjunction with cyberbullying issues.
Posting: It is feasible and reasonable to assume that it won’t be long before the feed becomes my generation’s equivalent of the bathroom wall. “For a good time call….”
Location: This app not only serves up the feed of the posts closest to you (location issue #1), but it then reveals the location of the user posting (location issue #2).
What happens now?
This app is not meant for children. The app makers make that plain in their Android and IOS marketplace descriptions.
According to their marketing language:
– The ultimate way to share your thoughts and recommendations, anonymously.
– Share your own Yaks and see what other people are saying.
– No login, no password, no traces; simply anonymous.
– Upvote and downvote Yaks, see what makes it to the ‘Hot’ page!
– Perfect for college/university students to stay social!Obviously your child should have not have this app on his/her phone.
The only thing we can continue to do is to parent our children. Watch this video for a review on the basics.
Read more from the Blog
- I Disagree Completely With HuffPost Article – Here’s What You Should ACTUALLY Do If You Catch Your Kid Sexting
- An Open Letter to Teens Who Use Ask.fm; Read, Post, & Share
- VIDEO: Internet Safety: Before you buy your child a digital device – think safety
- VIDEO: Internet Safety Expert : Jesse Weinberger on WKYC-Cleveland to Discuss Cyberbullying and Internet Safety
- VIDEO: Internet Safety: Best Parenting Practices to Keep Children, Tweens, and Teens Safe in the Digital World
- Internet Safety for Parents: Being proactive is the only defense for your tweens, teens, and family
- Parents of teens WAKE UP! Fake Facebook account contributes to the abduction and murder of 15 year old Nichole Cable in Maine
- Entire High School Football Team Gets Suspended Because of Cyberbullying on Ask.fm
- A Cleveland Teen is Murdered After a Facebook Argument – aka Internet Safety Basics: DON’T Feed the Trolls
- Adults and Kids: Stop Being Stupid. The “Gonna-Be” Posts Are Going To Get You: Robbed, Kidnapped, Assaulted
Jesse Weinberger is an Internet Safety Expert, digital strategist, instructor, and the owner of OvernightGeek University. Weinberger is the author of “The Boogeyman Exists: And He’s In Your Child’s Back Pocket”; a guide for parents and educators on how to keep children safe in a 24-7 always connected digital society. Click here to learn more.
She has been teaching parents, schools, and students how to navigate online and mobile risks since 2003. Jesse is available for presentations to schools, parents, students, and organizations.
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Orange City Schools – Brady Middle School ROCKS At Not Becoming Sheep
- Posted on: January 24, 2014
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I have no idea what I was thinking in this particular photo other than the fact that Big Mama does NOT look amused This week I spent 2 full days teaching middle schoolers at Brady Middle School (part of the Orange City Schools) in Orange, Ohio. It was a total of twelve 50 minute sessions delivered in back-to-back-to-back rapid fire method. It was a total blast.
The kids at Brady Middle are hilarious. In my most popular internet safety presentation for upper-school students – “Don’t Be A Sheep“ – we begin with media literacy. We ask questions like “If Abercrombie and Fitch sell clothing why are their ads always filled with primarily naked models?”. We learned that if you are a young man who wears Axe™ body spray, that half-naked angels will come hurtling across the cosmos just to smell you. And that if you are a young lady, most “vomit magazines” presume that your only role in life is to find a man and only by wielding your perfect body/hair/nails/face/clothing you will keep him.
The Brady Middle kids did not miss a beat. We collectively laughed our faces off at what mass media would have us believe and agreed that we would no longer “be sheep” at the media messages being forced down our throats.
But what about other influences and threats? I told them that their generation of children are being “hyper-sexualized”. When I asked them what they thought that meant, hilarity ensued. I can’t share most of the comments here, but I CAN tell you what it does NOT mean:
- having sex really, really fast
- having cyber-sex (kudos to the kid who knew this was even a thing)
- being “hyper” while you have sex
- “extreme” sex – (note: I think this young man was referring to some variation of “extreme sports” but I did not feel brave enough to ask)
They agreed that they have access to, and consume significant amounts of sexualized content – some their parents know about, most they don’t know about.
We moved on to cyberbullying, sexual predation, and sexting. We talked about the people in the world who would do them harm – including the boogeyman in the night as well as potentially their own classmates. The conversations were open and very, very frank. I told them my ultimate goal was to make someone vomit. I came close.
I shared with them my ‘Big Mama’ directives which are non-negotiable:
- get rid of Ask.fm and SnapChat altogether – no exceptions
- get rid of Kik
- lock down their Twitter and Instagram profiles to PRIVATE
- remove ‘location services’ from their devices
- put a post it note over webcams on all devices (including tablets and gaming systems)
- never post “gonna-be” content – (posting in advance where you’re ‘gonna be’)
- never, ever take photos of your junk (it’s a felony)
- never, ever ask anyone ELSE to take a photo of their junk (it’s a felony)
- if mom has to remind you to wash said junk, no one wants to see a photo of it anyhow – seriously
In the final analysis I found the students willing to have the conversation. They were open, and witty, and smart – even as they do dopey things and stumble through middle school.
Thank you kiddos of BMS, you made my job much easier just by being who you are. And remember what I said, if BMS administrators have to call me back for any reason, I will NOT be a happy camper. Do the right thing – and Don’t Be A Sheep.
Parents – you’re next…..the parent version will be held on March 4, 2104. In the meantime, you can read these internet safety tips for parents….stay tuned.
Special thanks to:
- Orange City Schools and Brady Middle School (BMS Twitter) and (Facebook)
- Principal Brian Frank and Asst. Principal Darla Wagner, as well as the entire tech and guidance staff who spent two days running in and out of that room to make sure it all went well. I was incredibly impressed with the professionalism, organization, and dedicated of your entire team. Well done!
- Orange PTA especially Lisa Goodman ,Wendy Blaszak, and Tracy Russo (as well as the general Orange PTA team)
Read more from the Internet Safety Blog
- An Open Letter to Teens Who Use Ask.fm; Read, Post, & Share
- VIDEO: Internet Safety: Before you buy your child a digital device – think safety
- VIDEO: Internet Safety Expert : Jesse Weinberger on WKYC-Cleveland to Discuss Cyberbullying and Internet Safety
- Internet Safety: Best Parenting Practices to Keep Children, Tweens, and Teens Safe in the Digital World
- Internet Safety for Parents: Being proactive is the only defense for your tweens, teens, and family
- Parents of teens WAKE UP! Fake Facebook account contributes to the abduction and murder of 15 year old Nichole Cable in Maine
- Entire High School Football Team Gets Suspended Because of Cyberbullying on Ask.fm
- A Cleveland Teen is Murdered After a Facebook Argument – aka Internet Safety Basics: DON’T Feed the Trolls
- California Senate Bill 568: The “Eraser Bill” Will Accidentally Hurt the Cause of Internet Safety
- Adults and Kids: Stop Being Stupid. The “Gonna-Be” Posts Are Going To Get You: Robbed, Kidnapped, Assaulted
Jesse Weinberger is an Internet Safety Expert, digital strategist, instructor, and the owner of OvernightGeek University. Weinberger has created an online course for parents and families called Internet Safety for Families.
She has been teaching parents, schools, and students how to navigate online and mobile risks since 2003. Jesse is available for presentations to schools, parents, students, and organizations.
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Internet Safety: Best Parenting Practices to Keep Children, Tweens, and Teens Safe in the Digital World
- Posted on: November 4, 2013
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Do you need a quick lesson on the best parenting practices for keeping your children safe online?
Watch this short 3 minute video goes over the least you should know.
(Can’t see the video below? Refresh your page)
Want to learn more? Check out our Internet Safety Course for FamiliesRead more from the Internet Safety Blog
- Internet Safety for Parents: Being proactive is the only defense for your tweens, teens, and family
- Parents of teens WAKE UP! Fake Facebook account contributes to the abduction and murder of 15 year old Nichole Cable in Maine
- Entire High School Football Team Gets Suspended Because of Cyberbullying on Ask.fm
- A Cleveland Teen is Murdered After a Facebook Argument – aka Internet Safety Basics: DON’T Feed the Trolls
- California Senate Bill 568: The “Eraser Bill” Will Accidentally Hurt the Cause of Internet Safety
- Adults and Kids: Stop Being Stupid. The “Gonna-Be” Posts Are Going To Get You: Robbed, Kidnapped, Assaulted
Jesse Weinberger is an Internet Safety Expert, digital strategist, instructor, and the owner of OvernightGeek University. Weinberger has created an online course for parents and families called Internet Safety for Families.
She has been teaching parents, schools, and students how to navigate online and mobile risks since 2003. Jesse is available for presentations to schools, parents, students, and organizations. Email for more information
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Internet Safety Expert : Jesse Weinberger on WKYC-Cleveland to Discuss Cyberbullying and Internet Safety
- Posted on: October 17, 2013
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Welcome WKYC- Channel 3 Fans!
Thanks for tuning in to WKYC – Channel 3 Cleveland at 7pm on Thursday October 17th to watch Internet Expert, Jesse Weinberger discuss cyberbullying as a general issue, and the role of parents as a specific potential remedy.
Parents: Get Educated – how to learn more about Internet Safety
Take Jesse’s course called Internet Safety for Families. You take the entire course online from the comfort of your home, and your purchase gives you access for an entire year. You can watch videos over and over, and share them with your spouse and children.
Click here to watch a free introductory video of the course, but be sure to use the discount code WKYC to get 50% OFF the current price of $129.
Read more from the Internet Safety Blog
- Internet Safety for Parents: Being proactive is the only defense for your tweens, teens, and family
- Parents of teens WAKE UP! Fake Facebook account contributes to the abduction and murder of 15 year old Nichole Cable in Maine
- Entire High School Football Team Gets Suspended Because of Cyberbullying on Ask.fm
- A Cleveland Teen is Murdered After a Facebook Argument – aka Internet Safety Basics: DON’T Feed the Trolls
- California Senate Bill 568: The “Eraser Bill” Will Accidentally Hurt the Cause of Internet Safety
- Adults and Kids: Stop Being Stupid. The “Gonna-Be” Posts Are Going To Get You: Robbed, Kidnapped, Assaulted
Jesse Weinberger is an Internet Safety Expert, digital strategist, instructor, and the owner of OvernightGeek University. Weinberger has created an online course for parents and families called Internet Safety for Families. She has been teaching parents, schools, and students how to navigate online and mobile risks for over 10 years. Jesse is available for presentations to schools, parents, students, and organizations. Email for more information
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A Parent’s Best Weapon Against Cyberbullying: Being an Actual Parent
- Posted on: October 16, 2013
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Photo Credit: CBS News Another day, another cyberbullying, online safety tragedy. This one happened early September 2013 when a beautiful 12 year old – Rebecca Sedwick, committed suicide in Lakeland Florida. She had been the victim of relentless IRL (in real life) and online cyberbullying.
Apparently she dated the wrong girl’s boyfriend. Fourteen year old Guadalupe Shaw bullied Rebecca relentlessly along with FOURTEEN other girls. That’s right, Shaw convinced fourteen other girls to team up against Rebecca. If the mob didn’t comply, they would face the wrath of being bullied themselves. Nice, huh?
The online platforms of choice were: Facebook, Kik, and Ask.fm. If you are a frequent reader of this blog you already know how I feel about Ask.fm. And it bears repeating now: Your child (regardless of age) should never, never, never, never have an Ask.fm profile – ever. Is that clear enough for you?
Consequences? What are those?
And here’s something else which is utterly shocking to me. After Rebecca committed suicide (by jumping off a concrete silo), and after Guadalupe (the alleged ringleader) posted on her Facebook page: “Yes ik [I know] I bullied Rebecca and she killed her self but IDGAF [I don’t give a (f***)], and after Guadalupe was questioned by the police and after she readily admitted to bullying Rebecca….Guadalupe’s parents allowed Guadalupe to keep her phone. Huh?
Polk County Sherrif Judd said:
“I’m aggravated that the parents are not doing what parents should do: after she is questioned and involved in this, why does she even have a device?” Sheriff Judd said. “Parents, who instead of taking that device and smashing it into a thousand pieces in front of that child, say her account was hacked.”
Trust, verify (rinse, repeat)
Let me speak very plainly (!!):
- If as a parent, you are not actively checking which platforms, people, games, and content your child is involved with – you are complicit in the outcome
- If as a parent, you do not create and deliver consequences consistently to your children – you are complicit in the outcome
- If as a parent, you do not educate yourself in HOW to help your child stay safe as well as HOW to prevent brewing your own little Frankenstein-bully – you are complicit in the outcome
- If you are expecting gaming companies and media companies to do your parenting job for you – you are complicit in the outcome
How young is too young?
If you have recently spent any time around a 14 or 15 year old, you will quickly come to the conclusion that young teens are merely taller, hairier 3 year olds. They bounce from topic to topic and app to app looking to engage, or hide – or whatever their impulse du jour is. And this is developmentally appropriate. They are supposed to act like tall, hairy 3 year olds.
Children are still children until they are well into their high school years. They do not have the physical/cognitive/emotional/social maturity which 24-7 connectivity demands. Those skills develop with time and experience.
But it’s hard – blah blah
I recognize that it’s hard to be a parent in the 21st century. And there’s a lot to learn – all the time. I teach Internet Safety for a living and I am constantly learning the new and nauseating ways children get themselves into trouble. But you have *no choice* as a parent.
Actually that’s not true; you actually have two choices: 1. Don’t give a device to your child or 2. Give a device to your child and engage in the education and monitoring process.
There is no third choice. Sorry.
Jesse Weinberger is an Internet Safety Expert, digital strategist, instructor, and the owner of OvernightGeek University. Weinberger has created an online course for parents and families called Internet Safety for Families. She has been teaching parents, schools, and students how to navigate online and mobile risks for over 10 years. Learn how to keep your children safe online at www.OvernightGeekUniversity.com
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Adults and Kids: Stop Being Stupid. The “Gonna-Be” Posts Are Going To Get You: Robbed, Kidnapped, Assaulted
- Posted on: October 1, 2013
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Internet Safety Basics:
Stop telling everyone where you’re “gonna-be” DUH. Photo Credit: Lisa BrewsterIf you’ve seen any of my live or online Internet Safety for Families presentations, you already know that I tend to lose my mind a little when talking about the “Gonna Be” posts. This is not a technical term, just an off-hand comment which stuck. Feel free to bandy it about at cocktail parties…
“Gonna-Be” posting quite simply is where you tell the entire world where you are GOING TO BE (and also where you currently are). Think about it for a moment. In your eternal zeal to make the rest of us on Facebook jealous about your trip to Thailand (and believe me, I hate you for it) you post the following:
- OOOOO just made reservations for our “around the world” trip beginning in Thailand #jealous? We leave in 10 days
- Five days left for Thailand and I’m not sure….flip flops? wedges? BOTH!! #jealous?
- Today’s the day! Airport limo just pulled up…WOOT WOOT #jealous?
- Betty Smith just checked in at JFK Airport Gate 25
- Got my Thai-on – here’s a photo of my feet to prove it because I’m really really insecure and need to prove it #jealous?
Good golly – do you all realize that the scenario above is played out ad nauseum by adults *and* kids on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram?
Why are “Gonna-Be” Posts Dangerous?
I’m consistently surprised by the surprised faces and reactions to this subject. Tweens and teens “gonna be” post all the time about sporting events, social events, and pretty much every aspect of their lives; on platforms which are asynchronous (asynchronous platforms do not require an agreement to connect – anyone can follow you) which means anyone and everyone might be listening.
Vacation “gonna bes” reveal way too much information:
- Give potential robbers a timeline (10 days left, 5 days left, check-in at the airport)
- Give potential robbers an idea of what you might own based on what sort of vacation you’re taking
- May alert potential sexual predators to the fact that your children are with a sitter (ie “can’t wait for our 2nd honeymoon without the rugrats – YAY”)
- Lets neighborhood kids know that your house will be empty – which is of course, the perfect place for a party. But don’t worry you’ll get to see all of the photos of the wreckage posted online after the fact.
Kid’s “gonna be” posts are unsafe for far more sinister reasons:
- Photo gonna-bes generally show your sons and daughters getting dressed for an event – I now know what you look like and how you’re dressed
- Depending on the social media platform – the Exif metadata is reserved on the photo your child has just put up, which provides the exact latitude and longitude of where the photo was taken. Great information for a predator, especially if the location is the child’s: home, school, best friend’s house, or soccer field
- Your children give explicit details: time of the game, name of the opponent, their jersey number, and a link to the location of the field. If someone wants to do your child harm – they have been provided with a literal road map.
- Your children ask for a ride home on social media: “I’m stuck at field 6 someone come get me”. Seriously?
- Cyberbullies (aka classmates) now know precisely where your child will be, providing another opportunity for IRL (in real life) harassment.
Killjoy Revisited
You don’t have to stop posting photos or attempting to engender jealousy and hatred among your online “friends” – just do it after the fact:
- post the quintessential vacation photo of your feet when you come home
- give the score of the soccer game after it’s over
- regale us with the finer points of that confusing Thai phrase where you meant to say ‘Thank you I’m done” but really said “Please eat my elephant feet” (giggle giggle barf barf)
Bottom Line
You cannot answer for every single Facebook friend, Twitter/Instagram follower you have. Most kids have no idea who 30% of those followers are. As parents we need to lead by example. If your children see you creating “gonna be” posts, then they will too.
Parents: take advantage of this teachable moment and explain to your kids just why you are NOT going to post that selfie. Unless of course you aren’t really emotionally attached to that expensive wide-screen television waiting back in your living room or, for that matter, your peace of mind.
In which case, rock on doofus.
Jesse Weinberger is an Internet Safety Expert, digital strategist, instructor, and the owner of OvernightGeek University. Weinberger has created an online course for parents and families called Internet Safety for Families. She has been teaching parents, schools, and students how to navigate online and mobile risks for over 10 years. Learn how to keep your children safe online at www.OvernightGeekUniversity.com
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